Read Talk Dirty to Me, Pt. 1 to start from the beginning of this PSO journey.

Since posting my first piece on being a Phone Sex Operator (PSO), I’ve gotten a lot of feedback from people who are curious about how to get started and how this phone sex stuff actually works.

When I started working as PSO, I began working through niteflirt.com. NiteFlirt is a website that hosts advertisements for PSOs, but also creates a portal for operators to track their calls, clients, ads, and income. Through the portal, PSOs are also able to message current and potential clients (for a fee, if you prefer), set up “goodie bags” of pictures and videos for purchase, make voice recordings that can be used for advertisement or to sell.

The benefit of using NiteFlirt is the use of the portal and their pre-built audience, but safety is one of the most important benefits. Niteflirt uses kind of a digital switchboard to make sure that you and the client do not see each others’ actual numbers. When a client clicks on your ad, there is a special button that gives them an 800 number to call. Once they call the number listed, the PSO receives a call from NiteFlirt. When you answer, an automated voice asks if you would like to accept the call, and tells you the caller’s username. Once you accept the call, NiteFlirt begins charging the client your per minute rate.

You get to choose your rate when you post your advertisement. Most people start pretty low, at about $0.99/minute, as you have more calls and positive reviews linked to your account, you can raise your rate. I have found that with lower rates, you tend to get more calls that last longer, but tend to take a little more work. More moaning and leading and telling a story. Calls for higher rates definitely come in a little more slowly, but the calls tend to be repeat callers who are more interested in engaging in conversation, flirting, & sharing kinky secrets. It really takes some balance and seeing what works best for you.

NiteFlirt does charge a percentage for all payments received through their system, pays out directly to your bank account daily, and will send you a 1099 during tax time.

Some other ways that I have found clients is through dating apps like Plenty of Fish or Tinder, and through active participation in adult themed Facebook groups.

When working without a site like NiteFlirt, you are definitely putting more of your information out there. Here are suggestions I have for more freelance PSO-ing:

• Ask how long they would like, and give them a price
• Set a timer for the time, and inform them that the timer starts as soon as you hit “call”
• Receive payment first – I suggest using CashApp or Venmo to avoid folks attempting to get fraudulent refunds through apps like PayPal
• Set a verbal “signal” for when time is running out (decide with your client when they want their signal to start wrapping it up & what the signal should be)
• Use a Google Voice or other number generating app to avoid using your real number

In the near future, Permission Slip will be offering courses on how to have dynamic phone sex for folks interested in becoming PSOs and for anyone that is just interested in adding another sexy skill to their love life.

*Not using your real picture or having multiple ads with different models is common practice in PSO-ing, and I encourage PSO’s who do not want to use their own pictures to support other sex workers by purchasing photos and the rights to use them.

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PrEP is a prescribed medication that can prevent the spread of HIV between sexual partners when taken daily. You must be HIV negative to take PrEP. It is about 99% effective when taken every day, but can still be an effective tool to prevent the spread of HIV even with missed doses.

PrEP is less effective against HIV spread through sharing needles, but is still about 74% effective, according to the CDC.

Emory University has created AIDSvu.com as a way to map the HIV epidemic in the United States through interactive maps. You can use the maps to see HIV diagnoses by demographic and by region. AIDSvu is a great resource, not only to educate about the impact of HIV, but also as a prevention tool.

AIDSvu also provides maps and information on where you can go to find clinics & providers that have PrEP available, as well as testing sites and where you can find care & treatment services if you receive a positive diagnosis.

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Selfies (or photos people take of themselves) have become a staple of social media. Everyone loves being able to curate the image of themselves that they put out into the world, and a selfie gives a level of control that simply asking a friend to take a picture does not. The slightest adjustment of the camera or body angle can take your selfie from meh to amazing without having to explain your insecurities or be the self conscious friend that always wants to take another one. Believe me, we have all been there.

While selfies are great for a profile picture or a quick Instagram post, selfies also can be used to increase some excitement in your relationship (or even make a little money). While many people hesitate to take nudes of themselves due to self esteem, reputations, possible exposure, there is another category of sexy photos that do not necessarily pose the same risks. Online, many folks refer to these pictures as “lewds”. A Lewd is an image that is sexually suggestive, but does not expose (or fully expose) the goods.

For example: a dick print picture or a boudoir shoot.

A lewd does not have to include your face or any identifying marks, depending on your level of comfort. The most important part is that YOU feel sexy. Here are a few tips I have for getting yourself ready to take a quality lewd selfie.

• Get loose with it: Turn on some music that makes you feel good in your body, have a drink, whatever you need to do to relax and be in the moment.
• Choose your setting and make sure its clean or at least set up as you’d like it: wipe your mirrors, make your bed, make sure the juice stain on the carpet is covered or out of the frame of your photo.
• Collect your props & costumes: I’m personally a fan of costume changes. I also tend to take some with my glasses on & some with them off, etc.
• Emphasize your best features: Whether its your eyes, your chest, your legs (and so on and so forth) pick poses and outfits that emphasize your best feature. Touch yourself! You want people’s eyes to be drawn to what makes you most confident!
• Take way more pictures than you think is reasonable: Change your position slightly and take another one! Then do some stuff that feels awkward and uncomfortable, you can always delete them. The more you take, the more likely you’ll find one that you love!

Now for some camera tips:

• You can use your phone: Most smartphones have a high quality front and rear camera now, so feel free to use either. I prefer the front so I can see what I look like as I take the pics.
• Play with your lighting: Bring that lamp in and turn off the lights, maybe open the blinds, figure out what lighting gives you the glow or shadows you’re looking for. If you become really serious about your selfies, you can invest in a ring light.
• Figure out your angles: Whether you want to do the traditional selfie techniques (mirror or holding it out in front of you) or you want to place your camera elsewhere and use a timer, you need to figure out what height and tilt you want your camera at to create the image you want. For example, holding your camera at a higher angle, with the top tilted towards you, can make your eyes look bigger and bolder, while holding it lower and the bottom tilted towards you, can make your body look curvier. This is another place where a phone stand or a ring light can be helpful tools to position your camera where you prefer.

Use these tips as a guideline to help explore your body, add some fire to your pursuits, and increase some self love.

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Look out for more information on Permission Slip, Inc.’s first web class on taking a sexy selfie coming soon.

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Yes, Phone Sex Operators Still Exist

I am a phone sex operator (PSO). It is no longer my main paycheck, but it is a quick and convenient fallback when money is a little tight.

The first question that I often get when I say that I have phone sex for money is: “Wow, people still do that?”

My response is usually, “What? Have phone sex or pay for it?”

In a world of free internet porn, it may seem strange that someone would pay per minute for something that many of us associate with long distance relationships or being young and sneaky.

However, for many callers, phone sex is a sexual experience that provides intimacy, companionship, honesty, anonymity, and customization that you don’t necessarily get from a sexy Google search.

My experience as a PSO began in 2016, after 3 months of unemployment and a dwindling savings account. After a semi-desperate Facebook post asking if anyone had ideas for how I could make some quick cash, a friend of mine revealed to me that she had been paying her bills selling her art AND… being a phone sex operator.

I’ve always been sexually open and adventurous. I dabbled in professional dominatrix work in college, and was no stranger to kink and the politics around sex work. She gave me some information on how the process works and some quick tips on how to add some variety to my repertoire, and sent me off into the world.

I dislike talking on the phone, but dislike being evicted even more, so one day soon after, I bought a selection of pictures of an adult model to use as the face of my ad*, and posted.

I don’t remember my first call or my 100^th, but I do remember some of the interesting ones, for example:

• Callers who just want someone to talk to about anything;
• Some that wanted to talk dirty and then talk about dogs for an hour;
• One who sent pictures of himself in lingerie, along with email addresses of his close family members, because the fear of blackmail excited him;
• A really creepy call that suddenly ended with the caller saying, “thanks for playing” *click*;

My personal favorites are the generous callers who are interested in financial domination or just like to send gifts (If you decide to do this, PLEASE get a P.O. box, for your safety)

I didn’t expect phone sex operating to be so interesting or lucrative. This is not to say it is an easy job. There are calls that cross personal boundaries often, and you have to be willing to invest time and a little money into your ads.

Being a PSO has increased my confidence and helped me gain ownership over my sexuality. It has improved how I communicate my interests and desires to my partners, and it’s a fun fact to share during awkward work icebreaker activities (maybe).

In the near future, Permission Slip will be offering courses on how to have dynamic phone sex for folks interested in becoming PSOs and for anyone that is just interested in adding another sexy skill to their love life.

*Not using your real picture or having multiple ads with different models is common practice in PSO-ing, and I encourage PSO’s who do not want to use their own pictures to support other sex workers by purchasing photos and the rights to use them.

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